There are three main areas to tackle when you have a problem with eating. The first one is recognizing that not all out-of-control eating has it’s sole roots in problem emotions.
You see, dieting and eating have a strong psychophysiological base. When you understand the role that food plays in affecting your emotions and your cravings, you’ll be half way towards feeling better.
The second area to tackle is to work on getting your nervous system better regulated. With a “regulated” nervous system, you’ll feel more in control and better able to handle emotions including stress.
Most importantly, with a regulated nervous system, you’ll be present when you eat. This helps you to be more conscious of when you’re full or still hungry and to identify any emotional patterns that may be interfering with your goals.
The third area to deal with is to get better connected to the real you. This might sound like an easy task – it’s actually the hardest of the three goals.
You see, our first experiences with food is tightly wrapped up with our need for connection. I’m referring to our need to be safe and secure with our parents (especially our mother if she was the primary caretaker).
Emotional needs that were unmet during your infancy can affect how you approach food, dieting, thirst and hunger. Not to mention that these unmet needs tend to make us feel more vulnerable in relationships and less able to set clear boundaries.
Here are some of the typical comments I’ve heard from those working on eating issues.
Research indicates that eating disorders are one of the psychological problems that people are least likely to seek treatment for. This is despite that psychological treatment has proven effective in helping individuals overcome problems related to eating.
Taking that first step can be overwhelming. Discussing your fears with me over the phone before you begin, may ease your entry into therapy.
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